Ultimate true love can’t be exist within a couple or family. But, ultimate true love (it should be compassion) can exist in noble beings.
Why true love can’t be exist within a couple?
Love between a couple is a developed selfish mental factor. If a girl see his boyfriend is doing romantic conversations with another girl, her love does not exit any more. So, it can't be a true love. (But, chastity is exist and treated as a compulsory moral virtue.)
Think about a mother. If her baby hit her or blame her still her love is not decaying. So, mother's love seems a true love. Still this is not an ultimate true love. If another woman's baby blame, she may get bit angry. Mother's love only become true love for her babies.
But, noble beings radiate loving kindness to all beings without any limitation (even to enemies). We can understand how noble being's love(compassion) look like in the 'The Discourse on Loving-kindness'.
A noble beings radiate loving kindness without any limitation such as;
"Whether they are weak or strong, omitting none,
The great or the mighty, medium, short or small,
The seen and the unseen,
Those living near and far away,
Those born and to-be-born —
May all beings be at ease!"
Also, this love is similar as a mother's love, who protect her own baby by putting her life as a second thing. But in the noble being's case this love is spread to all beings not only to a specific people or group. Noble beings don't only think about happiness of this life instant. But, they think about happiness of very long cycle of death and rebirth(Samsara). This life is like a instance when compare to the cycle of rebirth.
Buddhism explains Loving Kindness as a powerful weapon. When a person living with radiating loving kindness, others can't harm him. You may think this as a fantasy. But this really work.
We normally always be in angry with our enemies. Our angry mental powers, allow others to harm us. But, if we truly radiate loving kindness to our enemies, they can't harm us. When we spread loving kindness we receive protection from all directions. There is a nice story to explain this. There was a cow giving milk to her baby calf. Then an hunter shoot an arrow to the cow, but arrow could not reach the cow since her loving kindness to the baby.(This is only an Example. Please don't try this. If the cow is in angry mood or if it don’t have enough loving kindness power, arrow will reach her. But, you can try spreading loving kindness to your enemies.)
I sometimes do loving kindness in direction wise, such as;
"Me and all beings in my front direction; No one may not harm others!, No one may not angry with others!, everyone may wish other's happy. Me and all beings may have ultimate happiness Nirvana"
"Me and all beings in my back direction...."
Similarly; right direction, left direction, front sub direction(if you face to north this is north-east), back sub direction, right sub direction, left sub direction, below direction, up direction. (Also you can do like north, south, east, west,.... But you have to aware about directions and clearly imagine direction and all beings become non harming to each other.)
We can do loving kindness in different ways. Such as, direction wise as above. Also range wise as below;
All beings in New York, all beings in USA, all beings in Earth, all beings in our solar system, all beings in thousandfold world systems, all beings in our galaxy, all beings in the infinite universe.
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If a couple do loving kindness to each other they can live like a God and Goddess. If a employee do loving kindness to his managers and directors he will receive many promotions. If a minister do loving kindness to beings in his district he will receive many votes in an Election. If a president do every action expecting his people's happy and spread loving kindness to his people, he will hold the president post for a long time.
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